Who’s In Your Inner Circle?
To be your best, surround yourself with amazing people
Hopefully the people in your inner circle support and challenge you. The people you choose to have in your inner circle should be there for a reason. When you are on a mission to improve your fitness and hit life goals, you will benefit from the support of others.
Are the people in your inner circle there for you regardless of what is going on in your life?
Do they help you grow and catch you when you stumble?
Ideally the people who you trust and lean on can provide you with one or more of these types of support.
Emotional Support – Giving you comfort and love
Encouragement – Improving your self-esteem and confidence
Informational Support – Giving you guidance and advice
Tangible Support – Helping you do a task
1. Identify your crew. Take a few minutes and write down the people who you go to when you want to share something that ‘s on your mind. These are the people who you trust will listen and who will try to understand whatever it is you want to share. Hopefully these individuals also come to you when they need support. The people on this list may change over time. You may go to different people to talk about different aspects of your life and that is just fine. If you are struggling to open up to the people in your life, or to have meaningful relationships, hopefully some aspect of this article will help you.
2. Let those people know. Let the people in your inner circle know that you appreciate and love them. Take the time to let them know that you trust them and that they can open up to you as well. If you have a strong, honest relationship with people in your inner circle, consistently let them know how much they mean to you.
3. Be honest with them. Let your crew know what type of support you want and how they can help you reach your goals. If you need them to be harder on you and really push you, then you have to tell them that. If you want more regular encouragement, then just say that. The more honest you are about the type of support you want, the more honest they will be with how you can help them. This is a win-win situation.
If you are in a place where you feel like you are in a rut, or really need some emotional-support, make sure you are reaching out. If you fall off of your training routine, or feel overwhelmed and burnt out, reach out to someone on your team. We all try to deal with things ourselves and pretend that we are fine when it would be much better for us to simply say that we could use help. Trust your inner circle, and make sure that someone else knows that you are at a sticking point. Be honest with exactly what you are feeling and thinking by sharing your thoughts, fears, doubts and emotions with them.
4. Hold on tight. When you find great people who you love, make sure you keep those relationships strong and steady. As you fight to get where you want to be you will want your inner circle to be right there alongside of you. When you have breakthrough or reach a new goal, you can share it with others who’ll appreciate it. When you struggle or have a setback, you can share it with others who’ll listen carefully. When you have to make an important decision, you can speak honestly and openly with those in your inner circle who will provide you with solid feedback.
5. Rid the waste. If you look at the people who you spend the most time with and they do not provide you with any of the four major types of support, it’s time to do some evaluating. Why do you spend so much time with them? Are the people you surround yourself with people who you want to emulate or be more like? Do they inspire you and bring out the best in you? Do you need to separate yourself from particular individuals who are constantly bringing you down? *I know, I know, a lot of heavy questions. People that provide you with lots of encouragement and support, will help you manage your stress and keep life fun and invigorating. On the other hand, a lack of support, or negative relationships, can add all sorts of stress to your life. Who the hell wants more stress? Life is too damn short.
If you want to get the most out of your training and yourself, find and hold onto your amazing support team.